Faith!

Faith

Faith is something which we inculcate…Faith in friends, in colleagues, in relatives, even in God for that matter….! But there is only one faith that comes along with us to the earth in our heart and soul…Faith in our Parents….

My parents are the besssssttest parents…how many of us have told this when we were kids to other friends to boast off…and seen jealous faces…and some yelling back that No! Mine are bessssssssssstest with the stress on ‘s’! and almost all of us meant it to then…..we were innocent and got satisfied with whatever they gave us and had the faith and trust in them that they meant no harm or malice against us… but how many of us after becoming mature adults who can understand our parents better still say that….? Sad to say but no…

You may argue that it was the faith we had when we were children was blind faith with no reasoning or understanding…but no…that’s not blind faith…its pure faith…it is the faith we have in God! When he tests us we fight with him…ask him questions…tell him that he is nothing to us anymore and that we will never talk ( pray) to him…but don’t we go back to him when we are in trouble again and ask for help and mercy…it’s the faith as strong as the Rock of Gibraltar…un-shattered by any force which we have in him…that’s Pure Faith…which is something we must have on our parents and yes vice – versa too….dont worry.. i’m not talking one sided! After all I’m a youngster too…but am just trying to reason out to the senseless ( at times…come on let accept it… ) & endless arguments we have…

There is a term which everyone use as an answer to the question above- Generation Gap….ok fine…but what are we doing about it…? And moreover I don’t think its Generation Gap…our parents obeyed our grand parents without having arguments and they are still happy…of course it was due to fear.. but now nor do we have the fear to talk to them or lack of words which we spit like fire at them…have we given a thought as to from where we got that freedom from.. its surely not earned…its because of them being like friends with us….don’t you think so?

They have… atleast most of them have accepted the fact that since we have more exposure of the outer world we know much more than they do and have given us the freedom to talk and question them…they know that we wont and cant accept what they say ‘blindly’….but do we return the respect? Sometime yes and sometimes no…we tend to take them for granted… I think there lies the problem…they will listen to whatever we say! We do have that attitude most of the times…and most of the times we tend to regret it later as to why we said that…and ask for pardon…but what is told is told…from both sides…we cannot collect them back…we need to control our anger…respect the relationship we are in…and know to whom we are talking… and most importantly try analyzing whether we need to use such strong words to make our point…thus…think before you talk…may be difficult….even I find it difficult but I’m trying to change…and it works…I haven’t fought with my dad for over ten days!!!!!!! What an achievement…;D…both of us were laughing over this achievement yester over dinner! ;D…..

And also we need to express our love and affection repeatedly..even in this relationship..in this fast moving world we hardly get time to express ourselves which starts bringing a gap between the people…finally we will become intimate strangers living together…When did you last sit together and have fun and spoke openly and in a friendly way...take time off…express your love to them…assure them that you are always there for them…and respect them…and see a change in their behaviour too! Best time is dinner…try sitting together without any distractions like the black idiot box or the ever yapping and singing radio…have time off to talk and discuss casual and light topics…not troublesome family problems or something that with trigger anger…drift away from such topics…have fun.. laugh…get to know each other to the core and express yourself!

Hope I haven’t given you a feeling that I have spoken one sided…i can try talking from only our side of mistakes…I am no one to point out the mistakes of the parents in general…. have that Pure Faith in them…. and lets take the first step to change!.... So…….. Happy Dinner and a Joyous Family Time!